Santa Cruz Therapy Services

I offer trauma, sex, and relationship therapy for individuals, couples, and polycules who are seeking a deeper connection and safety in their relationships. Treatment is designed to address issues such as general disconnection, desire discrepancy, rupture repair from infidelity and breaches of agreements, and misalignments.

Sex and Relationship Therapy, Santa Cruz CA

  • This is a safe space to unpack the messages you've received about your body and sexuality so you can move toward more ease, curiosity, and connection. You can’t shock me, and I won’t judge you.

    Experiences we may explore:

    • Sexual Incompatibility

    • Sexual Dysfunction (pain, erectile dysfunction, anorgasmia) 

    • Mismatched Libido

    • Sexual Trauma

    • Dual-Trauma Couples

    • Kink & BDSM

    • Pleasure & Sensation

    • Sex Work

  • Therapy with me can help to improve communication patterns, attachment styles, and relational habits to help you build deeper and more satisfying relationships.

    Challenges we may explore:

    • Relationship Ruptures

    • Polyamory & Ethical Non-Monogamy

    • Future Planning

    • Communication Skills

    • Opening/Closing

    • Agreements and Breaches

    • Intentional Separation

  • We contain multitudes, and each layer of identity shapes how you move through the world. Together, we unpack the messages, expectations, and lived experiences that limit you to allow you to move toward a stronger sense of self and belonging.

    Challenges we may explore:

    • Biracial Identity 

    • Gender Constructs

    • Sexual Orientation Processing

    • Interracial & Multicultural Relationships

    • BIPOC/AAPI Experience Processing

    • Raising Multicultural Children

    • Positive Racial Socialization

  • Many of our relationship patterns and body experiences are shaped by past experiences. With trauma-informed therapy, you can gently process what you've been through so your nervous system can begin to feel safer again.

    Challenges we may explore:

    • Sexual Trauma

    • Racial Trauma

    • Religious Trauma

    • Family of Origin Trauma

  • Therapy can offer space to explore the multiple identities that shape our experiences, like culture, gender, faith, sexuality, and class. Each influences your relationships, sense of belonging, and self-expression

    Challenges we may explore:

    • Cultural Identity

    • Gender Identity and Expression

    • Religion

    • Socioeconomic Experiences

    • Sexual Orientation

  • Queer culture is the air Oster Therapy breathes. My practice began as a seed planted in queerness that has blossomed into degrees and certifications that exist specifically to support my queer community.  This practice is a space where queer, trans, and LGBTQ+ folks can explore identity, relationships, and sexuality without needing to explain or justify their experiences. I see you, and I celebrate you.

    Challenges we may explore:

    • Queer Relationships

    • Identity Exploration

    • Navigating Coming Out

    • Family or Community Dynamics

    • Queer Intimacy and Connection

    • Family Planning (IVF, IUI, Adoption)

    • Internalized Homophobia

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